"¡Estoy orgulloso de lo que hice!" Todos los "logros y fracasos" en las pruebas de las destrezas físicas de su niño - adquirir balance corriendo patines o anotar un canasto - parecen haber valido la pena cuando el niño alcanza a dominarlas y siente confianza en sí mismo. He aquí lo que usted puede hacer animando y sirviendo de entrenador a su niño para mantener fluyendo esos sentimientos positivos.
Eager to try new skills, preschoolers go in and out of confidence. If your child says, "I can't do it," how can you help? Remind your child of past achievements. "Remember when you couldn't catch a ball and now we play catch all the time?" Point out similarities. "You scored when the basket was four feet. It's just a little higher today. I know you can do it." As needed, encourage your child to take breaks and try again later. When success finally comes, acknowledge your child's hard work. Clap like a fan. "Good job!" is added incentive to the pride your child feels inside.
You're not just coaching your child for the moment. You're also instilling an approach for acquiring the next skill, with all its mental and physical challenges. Positive talk — frequently used — is the key. Compliment your child on previously accomplished skills. Assure your child that everyone who is successful at something had to start at the beginning and learn to build skill upon skill. "You can do the next thing too." Show your delight in your child's progress. Gradually, children will model their own positive self-talk after yours. With a pattern to follow, they'll be able to reach for new heights more confidently.
When children want to perfect a skill — connecting bat to ball, throwing higher, maintaining control — they have to practice. Age-appropriate toys help because they provide incentive for practice, plus an attainable goal. Still, practice requires persistence and patience. With experience, as the toys you provide create opportunities for accomplishment, your child's self-confidence grows. With self-confidence, children become more patient, trusting that, if they keep trying, they'll eventually "get it." And they do!
Ejemplos de juguetes que aumentan la confianza de los niños de tres y cuatro años en sí mismos:
Eager to try new skills, preschoolers go in and out of confidence. If your child says, "I can't do it," how can you help? Remind your child of past achievements. "Remember when you couldn't catch a ball and now we play catch all the time?" Point out similarities. "You scored when the basket was four feet. It's just a little higher today. I know you can do it." As needed, encourage your child to take breaks and try again later. When success finally comes, acknowledge your child's hard work. Clap like a fan. "Good job!" is added incentive to the pride your child feels inside.
When children want to perfect a skill — connecting bat to ball, throwing higher, maintaining control — they have to practice. Age-appropriate toys help because they provide incentive for practice, plus an attainable goal. Still, practice requires persistence and patience. With experience, as the toys you provide create opportunities for accomplishment, your child's self-confidence grows. With self-confidence, children become more patient, trusting that, if they keep trying, they'll eventually "get it." And they do!
