Splitting Up Parenting Duties
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Congrats, mom and dad! After nine months — give or take — of eager anticipation, you're officially parents. That means your new favorite pastime is boasting about your gifted child. And you're busier than you've ever been.
With the joy of parenthood comes great responsibility, and your life will be made infinitely easier if you've got a mate who can shoulder some — ideally half — of the workload.
Carve out time to do things together as a family, but make sure each parent gets one-on-one time with their child. While one is bonding — or changing soiled diapers, as the case may be — the other can have a chance to live it up by doing things like showering, sleeping, or eating a meal that's not scored by the Itsy Bitsy Spider or interrupted by heart-wrenching screams.
The simple things in life.
And while it's important to spend as much time with your child as possible, it's also crucial to set aside time for you and your spouse, alone. A baby is a fruit of your romantic relationship and commitment to each other. Don't let the thrill of bonding with your bambino, or your new responsibilities, obscure that core truth.
Don't feel guilty asking a trusted friend or family member for help, or hiring a babysitter one night a week to take care of the little one while you and your spouse go out for dinner and a movie. Try to make it the same night every week so “date night” becomes part of your routine. And don't worry. Everything will be fine.
Our parenting advice is given as suggestions only. We recommend you also consult your healthcare provider, and urge you to contact them immediately if your question is urgent or about a medical condition.