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Helping toddlers cope with a move
Lyndsey North East
Moves are far more upsetting to children than we usually acknowledge.

I presume that you have already begun work in the new town, which necessitates your enrolling her in daycare so soon after the move. If you are not currently working, and if you can delay going back to work for at least a month or so, I would urge you to keep your daughter at home with you and spend as much time being with her and holding her as you possibly can.

She is going to need this until she accepts and fits into the new location and the new routine. If it is not possible for you to delay daycare enrollment for a month or so, try to arrange to stay with her in the daycare for about an hour each day.

In addition to benefiting your daughter, it will give you an opportunity to determine whether the daycare setting is as good as you thought it would be. Your daughter's tears may have less to do with the move than with insensitive caregiving. If you have arranged for a setting of high quality, she will soon calm down as she gets to know the teachers and caregivers and makes friends with the other children.
Dr. Bettye M. Caldwell Ph.D. Professor of Pediatrics in Child Development and Education