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When he doesn’t get his way, my son tells me to Go away!
Joelle Northport
Children have to learn that there are “home behaviors” and “school behaviors” and that they are not always the same. I would try to make very clear to him that he cannot order you around in this way. If he wants to be by himself, help him learn to say, “Let me stay by myself, please.” And respect the request, if possible. The different impact of a request accompanied by “please” and one that is not is dramatic. Help him understand that, “If you say ‘please’ in a nice voice, I am more likely to do what you want me to do.”

With the “No way,” the same sort of approach should work. Get face to face with him and say firmly, “You do not say that to me. If you do it again, you’ll go straight to time-out” (or miss some treat, or some type of deprivation that will be meaningful to him).

As a final point, make certain that he isn’t just imitating you or his father. If he hears you say those things all the time, he will also say them. Children learn more from the way we act than they do from what we say.
Dr. Bettye M. Caldwell Ph.D. Professor of Pediatrics in Child Development and Education