I don’t mean to minimize your concern, but I think she will get over it without any specific help. The more opportunity she has to be in social situations (other people’s birthdays, holiday gatherings, etc.) and hears “Happy Birthday” sung to others and notes their delight, she will realize it is something to be pleased about and will lose her fear of the situation. Chances are she will continue to be shy when thrust into the limelight and will not seek such attention the way some children do, but the intensity of her negative reaction will undoubtedly diminish with time.
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