Q:
My son and daughter-in-law have two girls, ages 4 years and 4 months. Both parents work, so I came from out of town 2 1/2 months ago to take care of the kids.
I will be going back home at the end of the month and want to know how to make the break easier on my 4-year-old granddaughter, who has grown very attached to me. What should I do and not do to help with the separation?
A:
My heart goes out to you. Your granddaughter is going to miss you, and you will miss her. The good news is that you two have formed a very close relationship that will last forever. Here are some tips that will help you stay close to her:
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Call her at least twice a week.
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Send her photos of yourself from time to time.
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Encourage her to send you her drawings.
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Write little cards and notes to her.
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Every now and then surprise her with a fun toy or a new outfit.
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Make plans to come back for visits throughout the year.
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Arrange for her to visit you.
My granddaughter lives in another state. I do all of these things, and they really help.
Kenneth N. Condrell Ph.D Child Psychologist
Our parenting advice is given as suggestions only. We recommend you also consult your healthcare provider, and urge you to contact them immediately if your question is urgent or about a medical condition.
