A: It's possible that your husband's parents are careless when they look after young children.

But the fact that you're worrying about this before your child is born suggests you may be the kind of parent who easily becomes overprotective. I suggest you discreetly talk to your sister-in–law, asking her how she feels about the care that's being provided. I also suggest you observe if, and how many times, your nephew is hurt while he's with the grandparents. This will help you determine whether the grandparents have a problem or whether you're being worrying unnecessarily.

If you decide that your husband's parents are being careless, it's up to your husband to talk to them about it. But he has to let them know that he's as concerned about this as you are. Another option to consider is being there with your child while his grandparents are around. There's no rule saying that you have to leave your son with them. Once your child is older, you may feel more at ease doing so.