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My brother’s marriage is in trouble, and I want to help his kids
Q: My brother and sister-in-law have three kids and various marital and financial woes. He works six days a week and tries to spend as much time with the girls as he can. She works odd jobs and doesn’t spend a lot of time nurturing her family, and the kids seem to suffer most. They’re often behind academically, and I worry that they won’t be able to keep up with their peers. How can I help them without being seen as meddling?
A: Unless your brother and sister-in-law ask for your help, I think you should do nothing. Of course, I can understand your concern about your brother’s deteriorating family life.

For now I would suggest you sympathize with your brother and let him know that you’re there for him if he ever wants your help. If you feel you have to do something, you might offer to help tutor the kids or provide one for them.