My 5-year-old started kindergarten two weeks ago. He is my fourth child out of five. My problem is that unlike his older brothers and sisters, he does not like school and has a bad attitude about it and has already been in one fight with another child in his class. All my other children loved school from day one. How do I get him to change his attitude about school before he carries it with him through later years? By the way, his attitude about school started before he was in the fight with the other child in his class.
Every bit of success he has there will modify his attitude a little at a time. By “success,” I don’t mean just learning new pre-academic skills. I mean every time he has fun playing with another child, every time it is his turn to pour juice, every time his teacher says something like, “That’s a nice garage you’ve built there,” and so on. I’m sure his teacher is already trying to find ways to praise him when he is playing and working cooperatively—that is, not fighting or interfering with class activities. And you need to reinforce with him at home that fighting is not the way to make friends in school and help him learn to deal with frustration more constructively.
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