My 4½-year-old son is biracial. What can I do to prepare him for the biases he will face growing up and into adulthood? He already understands that being “tan” is not a bad thing, and he even has a biracial friend. He knows that his skin colour is different from mine, his baby brother’s, his stepdad’s and the rest of the family’s. But since his father refuses to see him he has no ties to that part of his background. He starts school in the fall, and I want him to be prepared.
Good for you for thinking about this ahead of time and not waiting until problems develop. Actually, it sounds to me as though you are off to a good start with him in this regard. However, our world is not devoid of racism, and he will undoubtedly encounter some hostility and negative feelings as he grows up. However, if he has acceptance from you and others in the family and doesn’t face invidious comparisons with his baby brother, this will help prevent conflicts and complications that might otherwise arise.
Don’t hesitate to help him become aware of the many highly successful and powerful people who are biracial. Two of the most powerful people in the political world today and some of the most successful actors fall into that category. Having such outstanding people as role models will help your son during his own developmental journey.
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