Q:
My husband and I separated when my son, now 14 months, was 1 month old. I have been living with my parents since then, and my mom watches my son during the day while I work.
I have noticed that in the evenings he will go to her when he is ready for bed, hurt or tired. I want to have a strong bond with my son, but I feel like my mom has a stronger one. What can I do? I can't afford to move out on my own yet.
A:
Your mother has a stronger bond with your son because she spends more time with him.
I know this is hard to hear, and I understand that you have to work, but you need to find ways to spend more time with him. He is just a baby, and he needs you. Please don't make the mistake of moving out of your mother's home and placing your son in daycare. She's offering you both a valuable service.
One suggestion that might help is to have your mother shop and run errands once you're home from work. This way you will be alone with your son, giving him a chance to grow closer to you. And don't let your mother do all the parenting on weekends. This needs to be your time for you and your baby.
Kenneth N. Condrell Ph.D Child Psychologist
Our parenting advice is given as suggestions only. We recommend you also consult your healthcare provider, and urge you to contact them immediately if your question is urgent or about a medical condition.
