Q:
My 5-year old daughter runs up to complete strangers and hugs them around the waist. While I revel in her sharing her joy at seeing new people, how do I instill in her the need to be cautious? We have had many discussions about strangers and how, even if I’m present, she shouldn’t approach anyone she doesn’t know. We’ve even discussed the “dangers” of approaching strangers, to no avail.
A:
Children are in love with everyone. They meet a child, start playing and soon have a new friend. They see adults and want their attention. It sounds like you have raised your daughter with a lot of love and that she’s an outgoing, confident child. Unfortunately, we live in a world that’s not as safe as it used to be, and you have to be concerned. Let your daughter know that when she’s with you she’s allowed to say, “Hi” and talk to strangers, but when she’s not she has to ask her teacher or whomever is watching her if it’s okay. I suggest you “rehearse” this at home. Make up games in which you’re the teacher and she has to ask permission. I hope this helps.
Kenneth N. Condrell Ph.D Child Psychologist
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