My guess is that your son has regressed. Young children will regress when they feel stressed. I think your son is feeling slighted by the attention the baby is getting. Now he’s being babyish so you’ll fuss with him like a baby.
It may seem to you that your son receives plenty of attention, but try to see life through his eyes. He was the baby of the family and once received a lot of attention. Now he has been displaced.
Here are some ideas that will help.
- Plan some private one-on-one time with your 4-year-old each week. Even 20 minutes can make him feel important.
- Make sure your son’s bedtime is later than the baby’s so he can feel more grown up.
- Give him grown-up tasks to do to help around the house so he can appreciate his status in the family.
I have found that scolding, punishing and yelling at a child for soiling do not work. You’re just going to have to be patient as you help him understand that he doesn’t have to be a baby to get a lot of attention.
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