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Our 4-year-old climbs into our bed in the middle of the night
Q: Our 4-year-old daughter comes to our room in the middle of the night, complaining that her room is scary. We have tried staying in her room until she’s asleep, but two to three hours later she’s in ours. I carry her back to her room and show her that all is OK. She has a nightlight and we got her a tent bed. Some nights she’s so quiet about coming in that we don’t even know she’s there.
Christine Northumberland
A: I used to be fairly strict about kids sleeping in their own beds, but I have changed my position on this because so many of today’s parents have such busy careers. As a result, kids miss their parents. Spending a couple of hours with them at night after dinner doesn’t satisfy their need for closeness. If you think this is why your daughter comes to your room at night, you can continue to let her sleep with you.

If not, place a bell on your door so you wake up when she comes in. Then, gently take her back to her room. In time, your daughter will get the idea she must sleep in her own room. You might consider rewarding her with privileges for those nights she stays in her own room.